| There is this Chinese Saying that literally translates | | | | positively so that I can succeed faster, the fear |
| to "Failure Is The Mother Of Success!". Basically, it | | | | of failure is reduced. |
| means that failure is like a mother who will give | | | | Other than the paradigm shift, I have adopted |
| birth to success. A more proper way to phrase it | | | | additional steps to enhance my chance of success |
| will be failure precedes success. Usually, it is use | | | | in whatever I am trying to achieve. Firstly, I will |
| to encourage someone who have just | | | | focus on my goal instead of my fears. If my goal |
| encountered a failure or setback in life. It helps to | | | | is to learn ice-skating, I do not focus on the |
| remind the person that one will definitely need to | | | | dangers of falling and injuring myself. That is I do |
| go through the experience of failures before one | | | | not imagine the fears of falling and the pains from |
| can succeed. | | | | the injuries before they have really happened. |
| Though I heard of this saying numerous times | | | | Instead, I focus on mastering the skill properly so |
| during my upbringing, I never really realized the full | | | | that I do not fall and injure myself. |
| meaning of the saying. Actually, there is another | | | | Secondly, I leverage on my past success |
| way to interpret the saying. If I want to succeed | | | | experience. If I can successful perform a fire |
| quickly, I need to experience as many failures as | | | | walking, then I definitely can master ice-skating |
| possible in the shortest possible time. | | | | since fire walking is a much difficult task. Well, if |
| Why? Each failure is due to a mistake or a | | | | you do not have such a special experience like |
| combination of mistakes. If I can learn from my | | | | fire walking, what can you leverage on? The |
| mistakes, I will improve in whatever I am trying | | | | answer is the mastery of walking. It is a common |
| doing. When I experience failure faster, it simply | | | | success experience that everyone can leverage |
| means that I have made mistakes quicker. This | | | | on except the handicap. |
| gives me the opportunity to learn from my | | | | Have you ever wonder how you had mastered |
| mistakes earlier. And I will improve faster. At this | | | | walking as a child? Can you recall that? Walking is |
| fast rate of learning from mistakes, my success | | | | a difficult skill to master as a child. But we have |
| will be nearer. | | | | done it through trials and errors with the |
| This reminds me of my experience on trying to | | | | encouragement of our parents and loved ones. |
| learn to ride a bicycle while I was a teenager. Of | | | | Since we can learn to walk, we definitely can learn |
| course, I did not manage to balance myself on | | | | other skills or do other difficult tasks if we put our |
| the very first attempt. In fact, I had lost my | | | | heart and mind into doing so. |
| balance numerous times and injured myself. But I | | | | Thirdly, I will leverage on the experience of people |
| did not give up because I knew that I was | | | | who had already mastered it or done it before. |
| improving with each failed attempt. This is | | | | The best way is to get a coach to guide and |
| because I was learning from my mistakes. | | | | teach me. But if I cannot find a coach, then the |
| Somewhere along my life, I have forgotten about | | | | next best alternative is learned from books, |
| this simple principle that in order to success, I | | | | videos and audio courses. |
| need to go through failures and learn from my | | | | Lastly, I will come out with an actionable plan with |
| mistakes. Like everyone else, I have my dreams. | | | | quantified milestones to measure my progress. By |
| But I am afraid to pursue my dreams because I | | | | constantly checking my progress against my plan, |
| am afraid of failure. This fear of failure causes me | | | | I will be forced to reflect on my actions. What |
| to procrastinate on pursuing my dreams. If I had | | | | have I done incorrectly that causes the delay in |
| recalled that principle early, I would have taken | | | | my progress? What can I do to correct the |
| actions to pursue my dreams sooner. How did I | | | | situation? |
| manage to remember this principle again? Well, | | | | With all the above steps in place, my fear of |
| the Rich Dad series reminded me of such a | | | | failure is greatly reduced. My chance of success is |
| principle. | | | | greatly enhanced. |
| Why does understanding that principle help me to | | | | * DISCLAIMER * |
| overcome the fear of failure? Basically, there is a | | | | The author, publisher and distributors particularly |
| shift in perception on the value of failure. I used | | | | disclaim any liability, loss, or risk taken by |
| to associate failure with no value or negative | | | | individuals who directly or indirectly act on the |
| value. | | | | information contained herein. All readers must |
| If I fail in whatever I am trying to do, people will | | | | accept full responsibility for their use of this |
| look down on me. That is how I perceive failure. | | | | material. |
| With the paradigm shift that failure benefit me | | | | |